Renewing My Vows...

We’ve been married 25 years and at this point, many couples choose to “renew” their wedding vows to one another. But lately there’s another set of “promises” I believe needs a reboot… 

My Motherhood Vows to My Children

I’ve been a mom for 24 years. My daughter and my son are both young adults, navigating the world on their terms, and remain tightly connected to me, my husband, and our entire extended family. Each one has their own distinct personality and continues to carve out an identity that is aligned with their passions, aspirations, and values. 

My kids communicate the lessons they’ve learned from us as parents, filtering through what works and what they choose to alter for their personal needs. Each one is uniquely rewiring their brains to speak to who they are today, and where they want to go tomorrow; that’s the ‘special sauce’ and the magic in their own evolutions. I am grateful they both strive for balance, staying fiercely independent, driven, and determined while remaining my devoted babies who appease their mom’s need for updates and check-ins. My kids have a habit of turning my “Momism” teachings and phrasings back at me, enabling me to shift focus and remind me what to ignore and what to ignite in my own psyche.

So taking a page from their book, I am putting pen to paper (well keyboard to screen, actually). I am not just “talking the talk” but actually “walking the walk” and being the person I hope my children to be; generous and genuine, candid and clear, vulnerable and valued, courageous and connected, consciously cultivating and creating their own extraordinary lives!

On this Mother’s Day, I am catapulted back, as I am every year, to the day I brought them each home from the hospital and reminded of all the hopes, dreams, promises, and yes pressure that I put on myself to be the best Mother I could be for them, for me and for our family!

Although I can no longer physically carry my kids on my shoulders, there is no doubt (yep, the corny metaphor is coming) that I continue to hold them and carry my kids with me every step I take. So why these vows and why the need to “renew” my commitment to my children now, when they are soaring with their own wings? Well, the answers are pretty simple, because I’m their Mom and it’s Mother’s Day and it’s my gift to them and to myself. And more than that, I have now had the honor and privilege of watching my kids grow and evolve and continue to strive to create their pathway. My kids remind me constantly that “Life is not about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself” and so with that theme in mind, I too am the creator of the wife, Mother, and person I want to be.

And today, I am consciously cultivating and creating my story, and renewing my vows to my children…

I hope my words create conversations in your households and insights for you to share. If you are inspired by my message, please SHARE and please take the opportunity to write down your words to your children; at every age and stage, they want to hear your reflections and thoughts. There is no time like the present to give yourself and your family this gift!

Wishing you a beautiful & blessed Mother’s Day!